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You Have Killed Me

I went to dinner last night with some guy who, although not much older than me, looked ancient and like the father on Alf. But looks aren't everything, right? I knew he was on disability for some weird sleep disorder, which bothered me, because I consider my life one big sleep disorder (It was 2:00 in the morning when I wrote this, for instance) and nobody pays my ass for it, but still I persisted.

Eventually the topic came around to living situations, and his was that he lived with his parents. I clammed up, vaginally and otherwise. "Do you have transportation?" I asked carefully, suddenly realizing my choice of words could have included public transit. No, he admitted, he'd borrowed his mom's car to drive here. It was at that point that she called. He showed me his phone, for unknown reasons. "Mom" it read. I had gotten catatonic at that point and spent the remainder of the date shoving black beans around my plate. Goddammit, why couldn't I at least have gotten refried beans out of this?

He spent the rest of the date constantly talking about the guy behind us who looked like "a young Tom Cruise." Finally he broke that monotony with, "You're not much for eye contact, are you?" I looked up and locked eyes with him, silently communicating that this was not happening. Not even if you didn't look like the father on Alf, I was not going to bone you. But thanks for the burrito.


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Oct. 29th, 2014 04:34 pm (UTC)
Right on Colleen!
I've noticed that people living with their parents at our age is becoming a more common thing. That in of itself shouldn't be a deal breaker, nor should a lack of transportation. But you should know that looks do matter. Don't feel bad if you're not attracted to someone. It's an important part of the chemistry. And if they're ugly, unemployed, living with mom, and don't have a car... well, you know. It's important though to know that they're willing and trying to make their life better. If they're just looking for someone to take care of them like their mom, that's a big red flag.

Don't lose heart. You can't rush into finding someone to spend your life with. It's got to be right for both of you. In the mean time, you've got good friends that care about you.
Oct. 30th, 2014 03:04 am (UTC)
lol you're full of zingers! I let out the biggest snort at "Looked ancient and like the father of Alf."

I gotta praise that dude, though...He actually went on a date without a job or a car and living with his mom. I can't remember the last time I went on a date...with a job, a car and living alone.
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